Sending healing to another is a very mild connection, suggestion, request, and transmission.
You don’t bully their doors down, slobber healing all over them, and then trumpet your successes.
If you really want to be a healer, it has to be about that other person. You can’t “fix her” unless she does most of the work. And if you then feel proud of what “you” have accomplished, you are shutting that whole process down.